Why I Cut Myself, and What Helped Me to Stop

Why I Cut Myself, and What Helped Me to Stop

*Trigger warning: descriptions of self-harm

I would self-harm as a method of release. I found that by cutting myself I was able to reduce the tension, anxiety and anger that would build up. It was like releasing water through a dam. It felt like if I didn’t cut, that my mind would crack, with devastating results.

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Why BJJ Is The Best Martial Art For Combating Mental Illness

Why BJJ Is The Best Martial Art For Combating Mental Illness

A traumatic past left me with anxiety and depression issues as well as a significant amount of pent up rage. With no guidance of how to deal with it, I turned to punching a bag for relief. Luckily for me it started to work, and I fell in love with martial arts.

Eventually I came across BJJ and I was hooked - the social atmosphere, constant learning, physicality and the practicality in a self defence situation all combined to be one of the best treatments for my mental health issues...

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Finding the Balance Between Mania and Creativity - Words from a Mentally Ill Writer

Finding the Balance Between Mania and Creativity - Words from a Mentally Ill Writer

It is 4am as I write this, I am slightly inebriated and my brain is buzzing. I have been up all night writing and I am still going. I can’t stop.

I must keep writing. When I get on a roll I can’t help it. Something comes over me and I must get it out. It is an affliction. This has happened before and will happen again...

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Having a Child Isn’t as Bad as Everyone Says It’s Going to Be

Having a Child Isn’t as Bad as Everyone Says It’s Going to Be

In the months leading up the birth of my first child, I noticed something strange occurring. Almost everyone that I told the news to had the same reaction. First, they congratulated me, then they proceeded to tell me endless stories of the horrors of childbirth and fatherhood.

They would share tales of sleepless nights, never ending inconsolable crying and the mountains upon mountains of poo that regularly explodes out of nappies. 

All of this combined in my mind to create a storm of anxious rumination. As the pregnancy progressed, my mental health steadily declined. I would bounce between dissociation and anxiety with a dash of regret thrown in there.

This is the post that I wish was available to me during that time.

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Your Anxiety is a Liar – and it’s Costing You Years of Your Life.

Your Anxiety is a Liar – and it’s Costing You Years of Your Life.

Reflecting on my experiences with anxiety leaves me with a one sentence, anxiety killing mantra:

“Anxiety is a liar and it’s taking up too much of my life”.

I want to prove it to you. Consider the following questions:

- When has it ever been as bad as you thought it was going to be?
-How many times have you worried about something that just has never occurred?
-How many anxious thoughts do you have about one thing - could each possible outcome come true?
-How many times were you anxious before an event, only to be completely fine during the event?

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Mental Illness Does Not Excuse Your Behaviour Towards Others

Mental Illness Does Not Excuse Your Behaviour Towards Others

People often excuse a behaviour if there are extenuating circumstances.

We tend to forgive, downplay or simply ignore it, because we realise that the person doing the behaviour is going through something significant and therefore are ‘not themselves’ at the moment.

If somebody just lost a loved one, they could be excused for having a shorter temper then usual or for crying openly in public. Leaving social gatherings early or for not coming in the first place is completely understandable. Because we know that that person is suffering, we tend to look at their behaviour with more empathy.

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How Every Tweet is Changing You – Without Your Consent

How Every Tweet is Changing You – Without Your Consent

It is very hard to un-hear something. Once you have been exposed to an idea, it is impossible to remove the stain of that idea out of your consciousness. 


You can try and counter it, to disprove it, to ignore it or to fill your mind with other thoughts. Regardless, once it is in, it is there forever. Whether or not you asked to have that piece of information is irrelevant.
 

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If They are Talking to you About Someone, They are Talking to Someone About You.

If They are Talking to you About Someone, They are Talking to Someone About You.

If you think that people won’t share your secrets with others, you are probably mistaken.

I can feel you instantly balking at this statement. The mere thought that your friends or family could betray your trust is confronting. This is a reasonable enough response, the idea that those closest could be talking about you disparagingly, can create an extreme level of cognitive dissonance. It is far easier to assume that if you tell someone something in confidence, it will stay that way.

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You Are Always Only One Decision Away From a Totally Different Life

You Are Always Only One Decision Away From a Totally Different Life

Just less than a year ago, I experienced an assault that dramatically changed who I was and how my brain functioned. It has been a slow decline down through depression, anxiety and isolation. The end game with that assault was too domination and control me.

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Why Men Commit Suicide More Then Women

Why Men Commit Suicide More Then Women

As part of a university assignment, I was required to analyse why young men commit suicide more then women. 

It primarily comes down to a lack of support and acceptance of mental health in the community, combined with the stigma of 'being weak' when men consider talking/sharing their emotions. In addition, men typically choose more violent methods compared to women.

I have been there myself ... talking saved my life. Open up to friends, family or a psychologist. There are support groups out there and I would be happy to help you find them.

Suicide is the leading cause of death for young men. So if you know a young male aged 15-25, chances are that they have contemplated it at some stage.

Make sure you are there for them and that they know it.

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