Finding Safety in Safe Words

Finding Safety in Safe Words

Terms like sapiosexual, demisexual, pansexual, get thrown around a lot, and I’ve always wondered where I fit on the spectrum. A review of my past partners, and passed attractions, reveals something interesting to me. I don’t really have one type.

Whilst I have certain preferences and prefer to connect over intelligence/humour/personality/drive. One trait above all seems to rule out everything else. I’m attracted to clarity….

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Why Porn Is Cheating, But Sex With A Side Piece Isn't

Why Porn Is Cheating, But Sex With A Side Piece Isn't

Fallacious title, but go with me for a moment. What does it mean to ‘cheat’ on your partner? Can you actually define where that line is, or is there some ambiguous knowing that will occur that will somehow inform you when it happens?

Let me ask you some questions….

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Stop Kink Shaming Yourself - Your Kinks Are Valid. Yes, Even ‘That’ Kink..

Stop Kink Shaming Yourself - Your Kinks Are Valid. Yes, Even ‘That’ Kink..

There are certain activities that get me going. Certain situations, objects, places, and parts that really take sex to the next level. Don’t get me wrong, vanilla ice-cream is tasty, but sometimes I need to add some sprinkles and hot fudge sauce to enjoy my banana split sundae…

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