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Short talks on meaning, mental health, and what it actually takes to live a more examined life. Listen below or via: iTunes, Spotify, Amazon, & YouTube.
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How to Stop Losing Yourself In Others | Ep 282
This talk is for the people pleasers. It offers insight into why we struggle to say no, set boundaries, and why we lose ourselves in others.
It explores people-pleasing as a survival response, how the fear of conflict and disappointment can disconnect us from our own needs, values, and identity, and what we can do to begin changing these patterns.
Through self-awareness, healthy boundaries, assertive communication, and reconnection with the parts of ourselves we once pushed aside, we can gradually learn to stand up for ourselves without shutting others out, becoming overwhelmed by them, or remaining trapped in the traumatic past they may trigger.
Turning Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn into Flow | Ep 268
When faced with extreme and overwhelming situations we do whatever we can to survive. Typically this involves one of four responses: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn.
If this approach to stress works, we survive. Good in the moment, but often that survival comes at a cost. Unless we are able to appropriately process the event, both mentally, spiritually, physically, and socially, we may begin to generalize our fight, flight, freeze, and fawn response into a way to approach all aspects of life.
This is not ideal because these survival mechanisms are not always appropriate for what is arising in the moment. But because it worked in the past, because it kept us alive, we default into using them again and again and again, even when they are now clearly maladaptive and causing more harm than good…