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Release Shame And Express Your Sexuality
Release shame and express your sexuality. Even just writing those words fills me with a sense of, well, shame.
There is an embarrassment that comes when you begin to contemplate who you are and what you want, both in and out of the bedroom. We seem conditioned to pull away from anything more than standard, vanilla, socially acceptable expressions of the self.
There is a narrative, born of tradition, education, religion, and media, that seems to suggest it is okay to like and do and be one set of things, but not others…
Hypersexuality After Abuse
One of the least discussed of the patterns we carry is hypersexuality after abuse, especially when it arises from the fawn response, a lesser-known trauma reaction. When fight, flight, or freeze aren't options, some individuals learn to appease. This coping strategy, often developed during or after abuse or neglect, can manifest later in life as hypersexual behaviour. While often misunderstood or judged, hypersexuality in this context is not about desire, it's about survival - at least on one level.
Finding Safety in Safe Words
Terms like sapiosexual, demisexual, pansexual, get thrown around a lot, and I’ve always wondered where I fit on the spectrum. A review of my past partners, and passed attractions, reveals something interesting to me. I don’t really have one type.
Whilst I have certain preferences and prefer to connect over intelligence/humour/personality/drive. One trait above all seems to rule out everything else. I’m attracted to clarity….
Why I Stopped Watching Porn
“I don’t watch porn, that shit rots your brain.”
These words were casually said to me by a friend of mine. We were discussing different ways that we ‘Guard Our Mental State’. Basically talking about mental health and the things that we do to ensure that we stay in a stable place …
Why I Write Erotica
On the surface, what follows could be taken merely as smut, and rightly so, I have written these poems purposefully to arouse you, and I do so hope to be successful in that endeavour…
Don’t Stop Supporting Pride Month - My Story
The story of ‘that’ tattoo, pride month, and the nature of online discourse…
Sex Toys, Shame and Making Your Man Moan
Society seems to want to vilify all forms of desire and lust, while simultaneously using those very natural pulls to sell everything….
Why Porn Is Cheating, But Sex With A Side Piece Isn't
Factious title, but go with me for a moment. What does it mean to ‘cheat’ on your partner? Can you actually define where that line is, or is there some ambiguous knowing that will occur that will somehow inform you when it happens?
Let me ask you some questions….
Stop Kink Shaming Yourself - Your Kinks Are Valid. Yes, Even ‘That’ Kink…
There are certain activities that get me going. Certain situations, objects, places, and parts that really take sex to the next level. Don’t get me wrong, vanilla ice-cream is tasty, but sometimes I need to add some sprinkles and hot fudge sauce to enjoy my banana split sundae…
I Am A Survivor Slut – On Trauma and Hyper Sexuality
There is a direct connection between my mental state and arousal. When triggered, I go one of two ways; meltdown or hyper sexuality…
Jealous and Polyamorous – Your Feelings Are Valid, & What To Do About Them!
To be clear, whatever you are feeling is valid, normal, and likely has been felt by many other people in your situation. Regardless of if you are new to the ethical non monogamous (ENM) space or a veteran, emotions can, and should continue to, arise.
But should you do with those emotions? Particularly the ones that are ‘bad’?