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Hypersexuality After Abuse
One of the least discussed of the patterns we carry is hypersexuality after abuse, especially when it arises from the fawn response, a lesser-known trauma reaction. When fight, flight, or freeze aren't options, some individuals learn to appease. This coping strategy, often developed during or after abuse or neglect, can manifest later in life as hypersexual behaviour. While often misunderstood or judged, hypersexuality in this context is not about desire, it's about survival - at least on one level.
Sex Toys, Shame and Making Your Man Moan
Society seems to want to vilify all forms of desire and lust, while simultaneously using those very natural pulls to sell everything….
Stop Kink Shaming Yourself - Your Kinks Are Valid. Yes, Even ‘That’ Kink…
There are certain activities that get me going. Certain situations, objects, places, and parts that really take sex to the next level. Don’t get me wrong, vanilla ice-cream is tasty, but sometimes I need to add some sprinkles and hot fudge sauce to enjoy my banana split sundae…
I Am A Survivor Slut – On Trauma and Hyper Sexuality
There is a direct connection between my mental state and arousal. When triggered, I go one of two ways; meltdown or hyper sexuality…
Jealous and Polyamorous – Your Feelings Are Valid, & What To Do About Them!
To be clear, whatever you are feeling is valid, normal, and likely has been felt by many other people in your situation. Regardless of if you are new to the ethical non monogamous (ENM) space or a veteran, emotions can, and should continue to, arise.
But should you do with those emotions? Particularly the ones that are ‘bad’?
Instagram Is A Massive Prude & It's Disrupting The Sexual Health Of Society
I want to make it clear that I am 100% supportive of the intent behind these guidelines: Consent is king. Safety is paramount. Minors must be protected.
My problem is with the execution and judgement of what is considered acceptable and what isn’t. Put simply, questionable posts are flagged and removed by algorithms/AI whose decision can then be appealed and supposedly reviewed by a real person…