Black and white thinking, splitting and looking for the worst in people/events are hallmarks of BPD symptoms.

Personally I find this very trapping. I know I am doing it, and don’t want to cause loved ones duress, so I stay silent (thus remaining trapped). It can feel like their is no way out.

In this episode I discuss this trap in detail as well as discuss how I am working through it.

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If you keep turning up, you wont fail - provided you learn from past mistakes.

It is important to remember that every successful person kept turning up. They just kept going, pushed though, put in the work. They started from the same place as all of us. They had many reasons not to put in the work. Yet they did.

They took advantage of their natural attributes and upbringings of course, but they worked. If they can do it so can I - and so can you!

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We are often our own worst critics. Mental illness or a traumatic past can make loving who we are feel seemingly impossible.

But there is a way to change that. To be kinder and more loving to ourselves.

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All forms of self-improvement involve small steps repeated daily. A morning routine is the best way to get this into your life. It guarantees that you will do all the tasks, learning and personal development that you desire – but haven’t yet found time for.

So if you want to lose weight, get fit, learn a language, start a meditation practice, and have a clean house, or if you just want to be well primed to tackle the day ahead; a morning routine is a must.

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Topic: Neglect is the absence of something. When it comes in terms of physical needs (food, water, shelter etc) the consequences are immediately obvious. However, when it is emotional neglect, and attention neglect, the ramifications are often hidden. In this episode I discuss these ramifications as well as what I am doing to overcome them.

Book Chapter: ‘Learn How To Learn’ (00:12:50) ch:4.2 of How To Get Your Sh!t Together

“Learning how to learn is life’s most important skill.” – Tony Buzan

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I have just released ‘The One Minute Life Hacks Podcast’ . Here I will be sharing the how and why of self-improvement in just one minute.

The first episode is called ‘How To Wake Up Earlier & Not Be Tired’, enjoy!

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Topic: By sharing the reality of mental illness, we can hopefully help to reduce the stigma and let people know they are not alone. In this episode I share my recent manic experience, recorded both during and after the event. This is what mental illness really looks like.

Book Chapter: ‘Learn How To Say No’ (00:15:15) of How To Get Your Sh!t Together

“When you say ‘yes’ to others, make sure you are not saying ‘no’ to yourself.” – Paulo Coelho

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Lessons Learnt:
- Just start: You will learn along the way
- Done is better than perfect
- Don’t expect support (it will come, but not how you think it will)
- Be humble, there is always more to learn
- Don’t stop, ever
- It’s okay to pivot/change/refocus
- Value yourself – time is the most important resource you have
- Be present with what you are doing/the people in your life

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Topic: It is easy to fall into the comfortable rut and just coast. This is fine if you are thriving, but if you want more, anything more, you will need to push for it.

Book Chapter: ‘Only You Can Change Your Life’, ch 4.1 of How To Get Your Sh!t Together

”Your Attention Please: No one is coming to save you. This life of yours is 100% your responsibility.” - Anonymous

Topic: Real self-care is more than just a ‘feel good’ activity, it involves taking action to improve yourself over the long term.

Book Chapter: ‘Limit Social Media & Screen Time’, ch 5.5 of How To Get Your Sh!t Together

For me, sticking to a morning ritual is key, both for my mental health, but also for my productivity. In this episode I break down my morning, I talk about why I use a routine, as well as how you can implement one in your life.

My mornings in a nutshell:
- Wake at 6am
- Green tea with jasmine
- Meditate (40 mins)
- Black coffee
- Russian language lesson #1 (3 mins)
- Exercise (45 mins)
- Russian language lesson #2 (3 mins)
- Prioritise my day (3 mins)
- Respond to social (5 mins)
- Post on social (5 mins)
- Cold shower

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Meditation is a mental health must for me - I do it daily.

In this episode I share ‘Meditate’ Chapter: 1.9 of How To Get Your Sh!t Together, as well as introduce you to my new Mindfulness Meditation Skill Share Course

You can’t be as good a parent, sibling, friend, employee, boss, or anything else if you are emotionally drained, compromised, or suffering from a mental affliction.

The better you are, the better you can help others.

Weekends don’t exist, at least not for those who want to make a change in the world or for those with a dream.

If you have a passion project, a business that you are building up, or a dream that you want to follow, you need all the time you can possibly get your hands on.

It wasn’t until I tried writing that I saw major improvements as a direct result of treatment.

Unlike talking therapy, I found that I could express myself far more freely onto a blank page. When I sat down to write, I didn’t have to worry about what the page thought of me. It can’t judge. I could ramble, reiterate and back track without concern for transmitting understanding to someone else.

One of the best ways to reduce the severity and duration of a panic attack (or anxiety in general) is to become present state aware.

This involves taking slow and deep breaths, while focusing your attention onto your senses. What can you see, hear, taste, touch and smell right now? Focus on that!