Historically speaking, we live in the most peaceful time in existence; yet there is still a prevalence of crime and violence - instance of which many of you will know first hand.

Keeping myself safe and developing competency in this area has led me on a life long quest to develop my skills as a martial artist, to think tactically as well as to share this knowledge.

I hope to answer the following questions here:
What can you do to keep yourself safe? How can I end a fight quickly? What happens after a violent conflict?

Self care is not simply ‘feeling good in the moment’ - It is about real and long term growth. It is about establishing discipline, getting therapy, reaching out for help, diet, exercise and meditation.

Ask yourself ‘will this action help me in both the short and long term?’

I always felt out of place growing up, both socially as well as internally - I would feel the need to ‘act to fit in’. The problem was that this act wasn’t me, and it wasn’t sustainable.

Clearly I did not have a secure attachment. The fear and neglect I faced growing up has ramifications to this day.

In this episode I explore these impacts - both on myself as well as on how I parent.

My father was an addict and a drug dealer. He never harmed me directly, but the clientele he let into his house were a different story.

In his house, exposed to that world, I learnt a lot.

For as long as I knew him, my dad dealt. Every day, a procession of desperate, malnourished and volatile addicts would visit our house looking to score. From a child’s perspective, they seemed to have only one goal - acquiring their next high. Growing up in this environment had a profound impact on my life and world view.
I never felt safe.

In this podcast, I answer the question that I am asked the most, ‘Where was your mum in all this?’

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Every time someone donates hundreds of thousands (if not millions) towards the bush fires, they are criticised.

Every past flaw or issue is highlighted. 'Remember what they did, they are a terrible person because of...' Perhaps they are.

But it is important to note, that everyone is human, and someone will despise every public figure. Thus they will all receive this treatment.

Perhaps we should instead be grateful for the money, and encourage more of that behaviour. It is desperately needed after all.

Big dramatic changes are almost impossible to maintain. Eventually your motivation will fall and life problems will surface, leaving you to fall back on prior habits.

If you are going to commit to something in 2020, make sure it is something that you value. Do it slowly, and don’t wait. Start right now.

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Christmas presents quite a challenge to those of us with mental illnesses, past trauma or family/relationship issues.

There is a plethora of social, financial, and personal pressures that are simply forced upon us.

In this episode I deconstruct these issues as well as outline my approach to staying sane over the Christmas season. I also answer a collection of questions from you.

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A crisis plan outlines what you would like to occur when you are going through a mental health emergency.

It acts as a trigger for action that when implemented, takes you through the steps necessary to get the help that you may need.

I strongly suggest that you make a crisis plan up now - while you are in a good place - so that it is there for you when you are not.

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The worst of my fears are guaranteed to happen.

At some stage, all of my friends and family will die, and so will I. Nothing else is certain. Yet when I review my topics of rumination, I spend comparatively little time here.

This revelation was exceptionally freeing, I now know that I am free to follow my dreams - why? Because the worst will happen any way.

In this episode I explore this concept in depth.

Never before have humans had the ability to completely kill boredom.

At the click of a button we can communicate, watch, read, listen and play. Sounds great, but what is that lack of silence, that lack of ‘sitting with yourself’ doing to our mental states?

In this episode I dissect the overabundance of information that modern society presents to us.

I have been going through a rough time recently. This podcast breaks down my journey through struggle town as well as how I plan to get myself out.

Thank you to everyone who has been messaging me on social/commenting on my videos with their support. It means a lot.

I apologise for the lack of content, I will get back to it as soon as I am well.

Maria Phillips joins me for a wide ranging discussion on how to reinvent your life by discovering the impact of childhood schemas’, the benefits of cultural differences, cycles of abuse and past relationship issues, the red flag that is ‘too much passion’ as well as the realities of modern day slavery.

We also dissect the book ‘Reinvent Your Life: The breakthrough program to end negative behaviour and feel great again’ - Jeffery Young & Janet Klsko

Social media uses algorithms designed to promote maximum engagement.

It does this by showing posts to people who will engage (positively or negatively) - typically this is the same people over and over again.

This creates an echo-chamber that distorts your reality - if left unchecked it can make you feel like the whole world is split (and viciously attacking each other) all around the issues closest to you.

This will corrupt your thinking and is simply untrue.

In this episode I break down how this happens and the impact it will have on your mental state, as well as how best to manage it.

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Black and white thinking, splitting and looking for the worst in people/events are hallmarks of BPD symptoms.

Personally I find this very trapping. I know I am doing it, and don’t want to cause loved ones duress, so I stay silent (thus remaining trapped). It can feel like their is no way out.

In this episode I discuss this trap in detail as well as discuss how I am working through it.

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Childhood neglect and past trauma leaves a mark. Overtime, these can resurface in the form of ‘triggers’ - internal emotional reactions to environmental stimulus.

In this episode, I share my unique viewpoint on being triggered: Namely that is is on me to manage my triggers, and it is not the fault of the person triggering me (unless they are doing it intentionally of course).

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If you keep turning up, you wont fail - provided you learn from past mistakes.

It is important to remember that every successful person kept turning up. They just kept going, pushed though, put in the work. They started from the same place as all of us. They had many reasons not to put in the work. Yet they did.

They took advantage of their natural attributes and upbringings of course, but they worked. If they can do it so can I - and so can you!

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We are often our own worst critics. Mental illness or a traumatic past can make loving who we are feel seemingly impossible.

But there is a way to change that. To be kinder and more loving to ourselves.

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All forms of self-improvement involve small steps repeated daily. A morning routine is the best way to get this into your life. It guarantees that you will do all the tasks, learning and personal development that you desire – but haven’t yet found time for.

So if you want to lose weight, get fit, learn a language, start a meditation practice, and have a clean house, or if you just want to be well primed to tackle the day ahead; a morning routine is a must.

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